While you're exploring your odds of getting pregnant, don't rule out the possibility of adopting a child. Yes, I know that the idea of adoption may not actually be what you're looking for -- at least not right now, while you're in the midst of struggling with your infertility.
But, your sincere desire and enthusiasm to be a parent tells me you'd be a great parent -- with lots of love to offer -- whether the child is "yours" biologically or yours through avenues other than biological considerations.
Indeed, books have been written on the topic, so this small mention in this chapter won't provide you with everything you need to know about the process. But what it does provide is a reminder that as badly as you're searching for a child of your own, there are children out there wishing they could find parents loving enough to call them their own.
Having said that, adoption is a very serious step. It's not something one spouse comes home and announces and the other just falls in line without thinking. It's an action in which both partners must whole heartedly agree.
Many couples hold the mistaken impression, unfortunately, that finding a newborn to adopt -- especially in the United States is next to impossible. Of course, it's always good to keep an open mind about the age of the child you'd care to adopt, many couples do have their hearts set on raising a child from the very beginning.
Dif this happens to be you and your partner, don't let well-meaning but misinformed friends and family tell you it's impossible -- because it isn't.
Currently estimates put the number of infants adopted in this country between 25,000 and 30,000. These numbers may not mean a whole lot to you, but consider this: these adoptions are more than all international adoptions combined.
But more than that, adopting a newborn in this country may not take as long as you though either. The process usually occurs quite quickly. In a recent survey conducted by Adoptive Families the majority of families adopting were matched with a birth mother in less than 12 months. Not only that, but nearly 20 percent were notified a baby was waiting for them -- without their being pre-matched -- after the baby had been born.
How it occurs
In the United States, it's customary for the adoptive parents to be selected by the birthparents of the child. Not only that, but in more than half of the cases,
the birthparents and the adoptive parents have met.
The extent of contact following the birth and the official adoption itself varies from family to family though. Initially, both the birth parents and the adoptive parents appreciate the chance to meet and to get to know each other.
Whether the relationship is continued depends on the specific circumstances of the families involved. You may have some very strong opinions along this line.
Many people do.
Depending on the state or states in which you live, you -- as the adoptive parents -- may share the burden for some of the expenses related to the delivery and medical expenses of the mother and the unborn baby.
Just keep in mind that every state has its own laws In regard to adoption. If you're interested in viewing these just click to www.theadoptionguide.com/files/StateAdoptionLaws.pdf. Here you'll find a downloadable digital document that give you a rough idea about the adoption laws in your state.
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