13.Characteristics of the Wise 2 – How to Dominate Your Fears and Phobias

6) Focused
Wise people have the presence of mind. They have the ability to stay concentrated on what is happening, where they, what they are doing, and what their present roles are.
Some people say foolish things out of too much fear, when such statements are not even necessary for them to say. They would have been better off being quiet and be taken off the hook. Wise people know their place.

7) Reasonable
They work within realistic possibilities and limits available to their situation. They don’t let their emotions take over — though they often tend to do so. They are able to reason with themselves. Their practical minds keep things simple and workable. For instance, their fear of heights can be appeased with mere thoughts that people don’t just fall off from buildings, and buildings don’t just collapse.

8) Great Timing
Wise people know what to do to counteract the things they fear. As a result, they are able to use fears and phobias to their advantage. If they fear darkness, and they have to go out at night, they will do it while people still loiter around.

If they fear lightning and the news says there will be a thunderstorm some time in the afternoon, they will spend some time in the mall as the storm passes by. They would find walking with people at night and strolling in the mall as they let a storm pass by, to be enjoyable experiences. Wise people will always find ways of utilizing time to their advantage, instead of wasting time cowering in fear.

9) Patient
They know the wisdom in waiting, especially when they have to weigh things or to get good timing. In the example above where they have to wait for a thunderstorm to pass by or take a walk outside at a time when darkness starts to settle, patience is the key. They patiently plan ahead of time and apply their plan during the situation. Patience is also needed to keep themselves from getting into trouble. If they fear somebody, they take time to turn him into an ally instead of a feared enemy.

10) Meek
Fears and phobias bother some people because anxiety brought about by fears can ruin their pride. Some people fear water, heights, or certain insects, but they don’t want other people to know their fears. Therefore, they force themselves to overcome these fears or pretend that such fears do not exist in them.

Wise people who have eventually dominated their fears were able to admit the truth that the fears exist in the first place. Even doctors have to make patients realize what sickness has infected them before they can treat them. If a patient keeps on denying his ailment, there’s a narrow chance for his recovery. Wise people are meek enough to admit what their weaknesses are.

They are not afraid to let people around them (family, friends, relatives, etc.) know what their flaws and limitations are, so people around may be able to help them too. As a result, they get to enjoy people’s company and live optimistic lives.